By Alaric Shearer
Harrison Gleaton is taking the same approach to relationships as many college students.
“I am single right now but I’m playing the field,” said Gleaton, a sophomore. “I’m not completely looking for it, but when it comes my way I’ll take advantage of the opportunity.”
At some point in their college career, most students will find themselves involved in a commitment with another person, either just simply platonic or something much more. But how can anyone define what a relationship in college really is?
The latest poll by The Crow’s Nest sought to understand how Coastal Georgia students view relationships in college. Approximately 56 percent said they were in or looking for a long term relationship: 33 percent of people voted that a long term relationship was more suitable for them while ‘looking for a wifey’ was close second with a 23 percent. The other options – ‘love them and leave them,’ ‘ain’t nobody got time for that’ and seasonal – came in at 11, 9 and 5 percent, respectively.
Gleaton said after eighth grade he didn’t see the point in searching for a significant other, but it didn’t stop him from believing in a solid relationship. Gleaton said relationships have their ups and downs and it does require work to make the other person happy.
Iris Bencomo, a freshman, believes there are significant lifestyle changes that single people must make when they enter relationships. If people aren’t willing to change it can be a big problem. The best way to settle any disagreements is through compromise.
“You learn about yourself and what you like in a person,” said Bencomo. She said that she is not the type of person to enter a relationship expecting a long-term commitment.
One couple that has experienced the ups and downs of relationships is Quanesha Wimes and Kaleem Moolenaar, who have been together for over a year now. Both Wimes and Moolenaar said they had to learn the ropes of maintaining good relationship and how to make the other feel as though they are needed.
“Trust is a big thing and a lack of that can really ruin a relationship,” said Wimes and Moolenaar.
Even though many people love the idea of a long term relationship there are some who do not. Courtney Kilpatrick, a freshman, said she’s “just focusing on college and not on relationships.”
However, that doesn’t mean she can’t learn from the experiences of others. “My friends who are in relationships always ask me for relationship advice and 99 percent of the time I’m usually right about it.”
One thing that Kilpatrick has learned from her friends’ flings is the importance of time management. She’s seen people forget who their friends are and devote all of their free time to the person they’re with, even if they’ve just started dating. Making time for lovers and friends is critical, she said.
It is commonly said that people around you have been known to affect a relationship’s outcome. Listening to opinions can make you think and doubt the person you’re with because your friends could not like who they are or what they do.
“There is drama in a lot of relationships because people tend to get in your business even though they aren’t supposed to,” said Kilpatrick.
Along those same lines, Wimes and Moolenaar offered a great piece of advice: “Never listen to other people’s opinions.”
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